A friend of mine recently posted his first video on YouTube promoting a program that he offers to the world. I just viewed it and it got me to thinking - go ahead, take your best shot!
He is an entertaining and engaging speaker when in the classroom and has spoken professionally for years but YouTube is a brand new animal for him. It did not surprise me that there was the odd stumble but it did not detract from the experience. Most people viewing a video will connect with a person who shows their human side. On the other hand, the world is also full of people - most of them friends and acquaintances - who will look at our efforts and find the faults, the criticisms, the mistakes and focus on them.
It does not matter whether we are speakers, trainers, writers or artists, the world is full of critics looking for the opportunity to edit and correct - it must make them feel important. I think this has happened to most of us and it keeps many people from taking their creativity into the world - sadly.
So here's my point, when someone points us to their most recent effort, we should applaud and encourage them - there is plenty of time later for editing. Nothing will have been lost by a sincere effort to capture our thoughts and ideas and present them to the world - warts and all. Waiting for perfection holds back more brilliant ideas than were ever created by the correctors.
We all need a coach or mentor who will cheerlead us to greatness and encourage us to step out and just do it. Are you the cheerleader or the critic? Way to go HJ - nice job!
Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
- Safety deposit box
- List of passwords and login info for social networks and online accounts
- Trusted person
- Final Status Update
- Step 1Appraise your digital assets today. Write down which social networking sites you belong to, what you use each one for and how often you use each. Rank them from highest to lowest, in terms of their priority in your life.
If you've invested half of your waking hours on Facebook last year, then it probably ranks at the top of your digital priority list. If you're a workaholic and LinkedIn is where you live online then it would be your priority. If your loyal Twitter or blog followers would worry if you suddenly ceased posting, then these are audiences you should plan to have notified of your death.
- Step 2Protect your loved ones from learning more than they need to about your personal proclivities after you die: create a "black box" for the secrets you want to keep indefinitely. Begin by archiving your email and private messages into a single email account; take the account's secrets (and password) to the grave by continuing to filter sketchy, pervy or overly personal e-communications to this secret account.
- Step 3Use an alias to set up the account. You'll be protected even if your dearly departed catch wind of the account: it's difficult to prove next-of-kin status if the account isn't registered to you. Even a copy of your death certificate and proof of power of attorney won't be enough to obtain the password to your secret account or a copy of the email, according to the terms of use by major email service providers.
- Step 4Filter digital messages you want to preserve and keep private, in perpetuity, to the alias email account. Make sure to delete sent messages from the account you use to forward the messages. Also, delete all instant message conversations you do not want archived or relayed to your next of kin. Clearing your inbox and IM records of anything you may find embarrassing or too risqué to share with family or friends, even after death, makes it easier to rest in peace.
- Step 5Select a friend or family member (or lawyer) you trust to notify your virtual friends of your non-virtual death. You'll need to decide whether you will designate the person for the task in your will or shall rely on a less formal agreement; whichever you choose, it's best to ask your designee if he or she is up to the task of notifying members of your social network of your death.
- Step 6Finally, write your "Final Status Update." This post will be used to notify acquaintances that don't warrant a call, email or funeral invite (like LinkedIn contacts, Facebook friends that don't make the cut for personal notification, members of your Fantasy Football league, and other digital hangers-on) to notify them of your death. Your Final Status Update should reflect your personality and serve as an epitaph for your online legacy. Keep it short and sincere, unless you're known for being a caustic jerk online, in which case members of your social network may come together to celebrate your passing rather than mourn you.
- Step 7Make sure whomever you select to carry out your last wishes online has access to your Final Status Update when the time comes, knows where and when to post it and understands who to reach out to among your closer online contacts, and how to notify them personally (call, email, in person) of your death. Also, provide a list and contact information for those digital contacts you want notified of your death via a personal email or phone call. Make sure to specify the method of notification you prefer, if it matters to you.
- Step 8Remember to accompany the text of the post with a list of sites where your Final Status Update should be posted. This will require that you inventory your login information: usernames and passwords for all your online accounts so that your designee can easily perform the notifications, with access to your login info. Update this document on a regular basis; whether your updates occur once a week (if you owe money to the mob or have a terminal illness) or once a year (if you're healthy and aren't worried about getting hit by a bus tomorrow or next week) is up to you. Store this document in a safety deposit box or with your other sensitive documents.
